"I was the perfect parent...right up to the time I had children."
So begins a wonderful series of stores about parental expectations and children's un-planned reactions. A book reviewed for us this week by one of our members.
Take for example the Mother who, upon finding all the fish in the aquarium floating on the surface (the thermometer had been turned up), scooped them up and replaced them with new fish, so that her five year old would never know.
When it happened a second time, she figured out the culprit, and after disposing of the dead fish and replacing them, once again with NEW fish, pulled her five year over and explained in the calmest voice "You musn't fool with the thermostat because it makes the fish "unhappy.".
When it happeded a third time, a more experienced mother, might have recognized the loosing battle and simply dismanteled the fish tank. But she was new to this mothering, so she bought a third round of fish and had another calm discussion about thermostats with her five year old.
When it happened the fourth time, she lost her composure; dragging her five year old over to the tank- pointing at the dead fish and screaming: "See those fish? They are D E A D...and its you're fault!"
The five year old neither broke into tears....or remembered the incident many, many years later. The mother did though. That's the point about parents and children. They seem to turn out just FINE despite these momentary lapses of reason.
The woman who reviewed this book for us at the book club, closed the chapter and told us a story about her own five year old granddaughter who walked into the kitchen as the adults were talking about Grandpa T..."not being here anymore."
"Where did he go?" the 5 year old asked
Her mother, not wishing to scar such young ears said, " Grandpa T is hanging out with God and the Angels."
"Well....he's dead then." said her innocent little daughter.
Ahhh... we just don't give children enough credit for the wisdom they posess.
(Check out the book: The KID turned out just FINE. Its available on Amazon)